Tell your husband what it is you want.

After 25 years of marriage, you would think I would "get it".

Have it figured out.

Know the drill.

Nope, I am still learning. sigh.

Last night, I returned home after working two, 12-hour shifts at the hospital. (I work in Labor and Delivery, 4 days a month)

I was exhausted, my back ached, my legs felt like they were on fire.

I took a bath. What I wanted, was a massage.

So, I put the massage lotion on the counter. Then a little thought came into my head. "Sue, it said, you know better. Curt is NOT going to "see" the massage lotion and get the hint. He is not going to come into the room and say to himself, 'Oh, Sue, put the lotion out, she must be in need of a massage....I will go ask her if she would like one!'"

NOPE. That is not going to happen. In a perfect world, maybe. But not in my world.

I knew that if I pursued my plan (put said lotion on the counter, and hoped for follow through, by prince charming) I was in for a big disappointment, I would probably take on a "poor me" he just doesn't care attitude. No, not probably, I would. I am all mature like that.

Maybe, I HAVE learned a few things about men and marriage over the years, so, I just asked him. "Curt, would you give me a massage?". Just like that. I just blurted it out.

He is a man who says to me, "Sue, just give me the bottom line. I do not need to know all the whys, hows, whens or every detail or justification. Just tell me what you want!"

I did! And I got a fantastic massage!