"Go to your room, young man!"
These words formed on my lips frequently over the years of child-rearing.
They meant....you go (to your room)think about what you did, said or done....and then we will "talk".
Yesterday, in the middle of a conversation, I sent MYSELF to my room! I needed a time-out. To think about what I was about to say or do!
As I lay on my bed, my first thoughts were to throw a pity party, with ME being the only party-goer present. I struggled with my feelings and emotions over a situation with one of my sons. Thoughts of being "taken advantage" of flooded my mind....that spun into "nobody appreciates me"....Oh, the party I threw for myself...It just got bigger and bigger, as it continued.
Then God:
Gentle reminded me that:
I am loved, and He truly delights in me. He wants to give me wisdom to deal with all situations with my family. The party had to stop, and I needed to listen.
So, listen I did, then I proceeded to seek out my son. I told him, calmly, that I was sorry for MY reaction to him. I asked his forgiveness. After confessing this to him, I told him how I was feeling taken for granted.
He apologized, and we hugged.
It turned out to be a good day. All because I sent myself to my room.
Have you ever had to send yourself to you "room"?
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I think it's healthy to have a pity party once in awhile, it's not good to internalize everything and as humans, we can't help the way we feel sometimes. At times, we need to sort out our feelings, to give ourselves a hug, and to sit alone in silence with our frustrations and reflect. However, we can control how we act/re-act to a situation and at some point the pity party has to end...and we obtain some sense of clarity, only with God's help.
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